How to Seduce Older Women

Seducing older women can be a real challenge for guys, particularly at first, when your nerves and inexperience are major obstacles. While there’s no magic formula that will make all mature women melt in your arms, there are certain tips and techniques that will improve your odds and take some of the mystery out of approaching women who strike your fancy.

One thing to keep in mind: the same things that work on college chicks and twenty-something babes will fall flat if you try them on older women. These ladies have been around the block a few times, and they’ve heard every lame line in the book along the way. You aren’t going to make an impression trying to wow them with your knowledge of the world, or through cliché compliments. They’ll just roll their eyes, ask the bartender to close their tab, and leave you sitting at the bar red-faced and blue-balled.

When wooing an older woman, start by showing them respect and a degree of deference, but avoid acting like you’re talking to your grandmother. Don’t do things that make it clear you’re focused on the age difference between you; talk like an equal, not someone being polite because he thinks that’s what a man does when he talks to an older lady.

It’s also important to avoid topics of conversation and activities that emphasize the age difference between you. Don’t dwell on stories about your college days (particularly if you’re still in college), and don’t take her places where she will feel like a fish out of water.

Ultimately, the key to landing an older lover is to make her feel a combination of comfortable, special, and, above all else, desired. Don’t make the mistake of leaping ahead to the sexual come-on, and you’ll be half way home.

5 Tips for Seducing an Older Woman

1. Make eye contact.

Eye contact is something that not all people are comfortable with, but it’s an incredible way to connect with another person.

When you consciously make eye contact while speaking with a MILF it takes it to another level of intimacy.

2. Compliment her.

Compliments are one of the easiest ways to seduce an older woman, yet men seem to forget to do it for some reason.

Tell her how great she looks in that little red dress or that you love the way she curled her hair, or that her eyes are beautiful.

Compliments and praise are great, but be sure you don’t lay it on too thick, and never be obvious. Don’t use trite, tired lines like “Wow, I would never have guessed that you’re over 50;” instead, select something specific about the woman you truly find attractive and focus on it.

Saying a woman looks good for her age or because she’s a mother are often taken as back-handed compliments, so stay clear of these. Make it clear that you are paying attention to her, not fetishizing her out of some general interest in having an older lover.

3. Be touchy.

You don’t want to grope on a first date, but flirty touching tells an older woman you find her hot without being overly aggressive.

This could be a gentle sweep of her upper arm or a hand on her thigh while talking. A neck massage or more sends a message and is excellent foreplay for those already in a relationship.

4. Be affectionate in public.

Every older woman has their comfort level when it comes to PDAs, but showing her some love when you’re out and about tells her you’re proud to be with her, that you know she’s a catch.

5. Flirt with her.

Even if you’re long past the first date with an older woman, that shouldn’t stop you from flirting like you just met. It keeps the relationship fresh and playful.

This could include tickling her in bed or running your hand up her skirt while driving.

6. Make love slowly.

There’s nothing wrong with sex of the fast and furious variety, but taking your time and really exploring a woman’s body sends a message that you find all of her fascinating and irresistible.

Sensually touching a woman with your hands, lips, and tongue will always make her feel sexy.

When a woman feels sexy and desirable, she feels open to a physical connection. So if you want to seduce an older woman and keep her sex drive motor running, your goal is to make her feel sexy!